I believe conversing with the gf is a blunder.

I believe conversing with the gf is a blunder.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:42 am july

We agree with you… i dunno. Its difficult. I simply know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. I’ve done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply the person I will be.

Like i said, i wouldnt go out of my way to attempt to communicate with her, but if she sets the record right with all the gf, ideally she’s going to turn her focus through the LW being a concern to your man being the problem, that is what is happening.

Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am

And in addition, what would you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?

Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july

I will realise why you’d believe means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats just a complicator. The LW is only able to get a grip on her very own actions, and overlook the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. Their relationship with brand new GF is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls need not be buddies after all. It could you need to be yet another connect to the man when it comes to LW, that is attempting to cut psychological ties.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july

Thats an excellent point for sure!

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am

Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies with this specific number of dudes who once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy in it after two weeks and I’d get actually astonished, cos they seemed therefore normal for me? Then it ended up being realised by me personally wasn’t the girls, its the people. In addition to girls had been all people that are just normal, you realize, desired to determine if that they had a boyfriend or not…….

Katie 17, 2012, 10:04 am july

Yea. Its love, as soon as that occurs enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU WILL BE!!

I do feel harmful to this new GF. She deserves to possess a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her he nevertheless dreams intensely about her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW as the man is telling her a lot of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.

Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july

Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but that is why many people go into all of them with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to quit dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am

Yeah that “but I have a girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he has a GF, he could be simply to locate a response everytime he states it. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am

Yea, its like whenever i was in twelfth grade and me personally and my boyfriend would separation any other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.

Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm

@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight to get straight straight right back together”

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am

I’ve said right right here a great deal, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I understand therefore lots of men who utilize that word to full cover up because of their dickish behavior.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am

We don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy within the place that is first. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact that you place a “crazy” label upon it, makes me think maybe you are one that loves to stir the muck.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am

Additionally, if you should be ready to phone some body crazy, wouldn’t which means that you will be kinda crazy also?

Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july

Therefore real! When the “crazy” comes away, Im operating one other means. I believe it had been said above- when you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, friend.

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am

To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about this too, and yet she will continue to answer this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of that bull shit.

Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july

Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman since your simply likely to cause drama. You must just recognize he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also you nevertheless like their attention, the truth that you realize he’s got a girlfriend is causing you to a negative man in this too.

Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july

That is a point that is great you dudes. I didnt consider it like this.

So LW, if you actually do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I adore you, eljay) said, some body has got to end up being the adult in this example. If he could be maybe not happy to be, you should do it.

Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm

Amen bestie – we accept you about talking towards the gf. That knows just just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their speaking so frequently, but even though the relationship is none of the company, the truth that the LW therefore the brand new gf have actually met now i do believe permits the LW some leeway. If I experienced experienced a scenario where a pal brought some body around that I experienced found out about and wished to be friends with (I’m planning to assume that the LW wishes that? ) and it went horribly, i may touch base and go, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively. She does not fundamentally need certainly to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend was saying that is___ in my opinion and he’s the main one calling, in which he said you had been ok with this particular, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became beneath the impression you’re fine with this being buddies, but i simply understood I’m perhaps perhaps not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july

I wouldn’t communicate with the gf about it. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And merely to inform you you respect her relationship? I might think you’re bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Just just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your http://www.datingmentor.org/xcheaters-review ex you don’t like to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Truthfully they probably won’t workout them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july

Oh in addition, if we had been the brand new gf and my bf and I also went into his ex at a club I would personally additionally need that people leave instantly. It’s therefore uncomfortable. Everybody pretends they can be” that is“mature stay friends with exes and stay completely okay if your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have to be okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am

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